Ritual Play 3-day Training 

for touch, body & sexuality professionals and for private explorers

”The beauty of Ritual Play is that the participants learn how to play. That is huge. Generally when you are close to people physically and/or you are having sex, you have a goal. And everybody working with tantra and intimacy will say “don’t have a goal.” But nobody teaches you HOW to not have a goal, what to do instead. Ritual Play teaches you that. Plus, it is fun, really fun.”                                         Dr.Betty Martin, sexuality and touch coach, practitioner trainer

Many tantricas, body workers and workshop facilitators invite and encourage their clients to allow a dynamic to unfold without a goal or trying to achieve a particular state. However, this is not always easy to do with a client who may have a particular state in mind themselves. Ritual play uses a specific structure that enables both client and practitioner to, within a defined time and space, drop their goals and have support by the structure to follow the moment by moment unfolding of the present dynamic. Ritual Play offers a clear, repeatable format for an interactive, non-verbal, two-way touch dynamic to unfold between a practitioner and a client. Practitioners can also use the structure in their work with couples. The same structure is also used in various ways for duos and trios to meet in group settings. Ritual Play is intimate in its invitation to non-verbal honesty. It is a practice for adults of all ages, all genders and all sexual orientations. It creates a space in which the full range of emotions and expressions – tender, soft, distant, spicy, confronting, comforting, nurturing, erotic, hierarchical, silly, devotional – are invited to be owned, embodied and put to play in an interactive dynamic without a goal. The Ritual Play dynamic was created as an alternative to the traditional giver-receiver dynamic used in touch-based sessions, like Tantra massage and other bodywork. The structure allows a very free-flowing two-way touch dynamic that honors both the practitioner and the client. Ritual Play may include varied degrees of clothing, depending on the participant’s choices. Who is the training for:

  • advanced practitioners who wish to add a new tool to their toolbox,
  • beginner practitioners to have a clear structure to use in your practice.
  • anyone who wants to have a clear and engaging structure to use with groups, friends, a lover

”I hold polyamory gatherings in my free time and have co-facilitated snuggle parties in the past. What I like about Ritual Play is that it has fewer rules than a cuddle party and offers a wider range of interaction among the people playing.”  Richard of PolySaar, Germany

What you will get:

  • Lots of different Ritual Play variations so you learn to trust your non-verbal, bodily self within this format
  • We will deconstruct the Ritual Play structure so you’ll understand how to implement the structure with 1:1 clients, couples and groups.
  • Understanding and how to implement two kinds of safety, for both you and the other / client / group: bodily safety (in relation to self in space) which is the base for a social safety (in relation to each other.
    Understanding and how to support the client / playpartner to stay in full, relaxed engagement.
  • Awareness of the power hierarchy between client and practitioner (for 1:1 client work)
  • How to combine the Ritual Play structure (non-goal interaction) with results-oriented coaching work
  • How Ritual Play is informed by Participatory Art practices.
  • Cultivating clear, compassionate and confident touch/boundary and safety guidelines for two-way interactive client work
  • Understanding the nervous system functioning that is at play in this interaction, including the new research on the Vagus Nerve complex.
  • The regulation goal for the autonomic system is not any specific point of arousal along the parasympathetic-sympathetic continuum. Rather the goal is flexibility, range, and versatility. Some situations require high parasympathetic tone (digesting), some high sympathetic tone (chopping wood), and some both simultaneously (play, sex). “Michael Samsel”